Divorced but not dead, yet.

The Importance of Friendship During Divorce

In this week’s episode, I share how having strong and supportive women in my life, during my divorce process, helped me come out stronger on the other side. I’ve learned that asking for help or allowing people that love you to be there for you, during hard times, does not mean that you’re weak. Going through divorce takes a lot out of you physically, emotionally and mentally. My Strong female friendships were a huge factor in me making it through and helped me become the woman I am today.

Red Flags and Reflection

“How did I not see it?” There’s going to come a time during your process when the blinders come off. When they come off what you see will be very different from your view through your rose colored glasses. I ignored a lot of red flags during my relationship. Once I started reflecting on all the signs that I missed, I initially felt alot of shame . If I’m going to be honest, I felt stupid! What I’ve learned is to give myself grace and forgiveness. The only thing you can do is learn from your mistakes, learn to trust your gut and build the self worth to leave when your intuition tells you it’s time to go.
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Hot Mom Summer

Divorce can be an opportunity to create the life you’ve always wanted. I plan to use this summer to kick off my ‘Hot Mom Summer’ and I encourage you to do the same. Let’s take this opportunity to live outside our comfort zones and live out loud!
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Loveless + Sexless = Depressed Vagina

Yes, you read it correctly! On this week’s episode we discuss how going through my divorce caused me to experience vaginal depression. I know it’s TMI but like I always say, “We are friends now!” Lol. I felt the need to share this part of my journey because I don’t feel like I hear it talked about enough. What I’ve learned is that even though going through the stress and emotions of divorce can leave you with no sex drive and a sad vagina. There is light and pleasure at the end of the tunnel. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

You are Worthy!

In this week’s episode, I share my journey to rebuilding my confidence and discovering my self worth. Living through a bad relationship and going through a divorce really affects your confidence and challenges your self worth. I’ve learned that getting rid of negative self talk and replacing it with positive affirmations really helped change the way I felt about myself. Grab a piece of paper or some post-it’s and write down all the things that you love about yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and repeat them daily. It will seem crazy at first but eventually you’ll start to remember the amazing person that you are and realize what you deserve. You are worthy of a life filled with joy, peace and love.
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Redefining Wealth Podcast with Patrice Washington
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My Journey from Divorce to Dating

Join me in this week's episode as I share my journey from filing for divorce to my first date. The million-dollar question is, 'How long should I wait to start dating?' The truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. What's important is to make sure you're emotionally ready and have moved on from your ex. Ensure you have your own place and that the terms of your divorce are settled. Lastly, focus on personal growth. Once you've ticked these boxes, you're ready to take the leap into the dating pool. Don't forget your umbrella, because it's raining men!
 
 
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When Your Ex Moves On

In this week’s episode, I share what it felt like to find out my ex-husband is engaged! As you can imagine, I went through a roller coaster of emotions. The truth of the matter is, men tend to move on very quickly after divorce, so brace yourself. What I found to help me is keeping a list and checking it twice. Lol. My therapist recommended that I make a list of all the things that brought me hurt and pain throughout our marriage. Whenever I get triggered by my exes actions that send me down a rabbit hole of self doubt I pull out that list. Doing so keeps me rooted in the reality of what the relationship was and why I ultimately made the right decision.
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Accepting the Present

On this week’s episode, I share my struggle to stay present and accept the present. When contemplating divorce sometimes it’s easier to reminisce about the past or have false hope for the future, instead of accepting your present truth. I spent years running from my truth. I’ve learned the sooner you face it the sooner you can begin to heal.
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Vacation Mode and Mom Guilt

As moms we juggle a lot of responsibilities and it’s rare that we get an opportunity to take a vacation, without our children. In this week’s episode I will share my struggle to enjoy the opportunity I have to take a much needed break. When going through a divorce you already loose time with your children and the thought of taking extra time away can come with a lot of guilt. Add that with separation anxiety and ta-da the perfect emotional storm! I’m here to tell you that the feeling of guilt is normal but don’t let it stop you. Taking a vacation will give you time to rest and rejuvenate, allowing you to come back a more patient and present parent.
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Mother’s Day Blues and Blessings

On this week’s episode, I will share what it was like to experience my first Mother’s Day, post divorce. Mother’s Day as a single or divorced mom can be hard. It’s a reminder that there is no longer a designated partner to show you appreciation on that day. It can bring up a lot of feelings of loss and hurt. I’ve learned to honor those feelings and hold space for them. Also, don’t put pressure on yourself or your ex to have a “magical” Mother’s Day because every day is Mother’s Day.
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