Divorced but not dead, yet.

Why I don’t Think I’ll Ever Get Married Again!

In this week’s episode I share why I don’t want to remarry after divorce. My point of view is not from a place of bitterness, but from growth, clarity, and self-worth. I explore the emotional aftermath of heartbreak, the fear of repeating the same patterns, and the comfort found in solitude, dismantling the fairytale narrative many of us were raised on and embracing a new story — one that values peace over partnership and self-love over societal expectations. This episode is about reclaiming your life, honoring your healing, and understanding that choosing to be alone doesn’t mean being lonely — it can mean finally feeling whole.
I’ve realized that you don’t have to want marriage again. You don’t have to explain your peace. And you don’t have to believe in the fairytale to live a life full of meaning, love, and joy. Marriage isn’t the only happy ending.
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My Ex Got Married! How Do I Feel About It?

My Ex Just Got Married! I knew it was coming. It was no surprise. Even knowing the day was coming, actually knowing that it had occurred brought up alot of feelings. In this week’s episode I share how I chose to deal with these feelings, good and bad. I also realized that knowing my Ex is now married made me take a look at my love life and the journey I’ve decided to take. Divorce is hard and what I’ve accepted is, unfortunately, when you have kids with someone they will be in your life forever. Giving yourself grace when those triggers or emotions come is all you can do to get through.
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The Importance of Friendship After Divorce(Reflect and Replay)

In this week’s episode, I share how having strong and supportive women in my life, during my divorce process, helped me come out stronger on the other side. I’ve learned that asking for help or allowing people that love you to be there for you, during hard times, does not mean that you’re weak. Going through divorce takes a lot out of you physically, emotionally and mentally. My Strong female friendships were a huge factor in me making it through and helped me become the woman I am today.
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Being Okay Not Being Everyone’s Cup Of Tea

On this week's episode I share my journey to self-acceptance. There was a time that I had no self-esteem or self-worth. I desperately sought approval from my partner and was willing to change or shrink parts of myself to please him. Through therapy, I found the strength and love within myself to start to show up in my life as my authentic self. A bad marriage can make you a shell of yourself. Going through my divorce helped me find myself again and become comfortable in my own skin. I now understand that I don't have to be everyone's cup of tea. For those who like me, drink up. For those who don't, politely decline or choke on your negativity.
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I Met The Family!

Dating after divorce can be overwhelming. My approach has been to take things slow. Some might say too slow. After two years of friendship and dating, I finally met the family of the person I’m dating. I had a lot of anxiety about taking this step. In this week’s episode I share my experience of facing my anxiety and taking steps to move forward in my post-divorce dating life.
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Establishing A Relationship With Your Ex, Post Divorce (REFLECT AND REPLAY)

In this week’s episode I discuss establishing a relationship with my ex, post divorce. I know the idea of building a relationship with your Ex after fighting to get out of one seems crazy! I get it! Despite my own personal feelings, I decided that the best thing for our child and our family was to have a cordial and respectful relationship. It took some time and there were alot of bumps along the way, but we finally got there. It took me deciding what I wanted the relationship to look like, making sure we were on the same page, working on myself, and always remembering ‘it’s about my child and not me’.
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My Struggle To Stop Self Abandoning

Self-abandonment is something I've struggled with my entire life. Putting others' wants, needs, and desires before my own is just how I've lived my life. I thought it made me 'a good person'. I've learned that prioritizing yourself does not make you selfish. In this week's episode I share my journey in trying to change my mindset. I've realized that before I'm ready to enter into a relationship, I want to make sure I love myself enough that I won't self-abandon to receive love from someone else.
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The Struggle! Balancing My Dating Life Post Divorce.

Dating is fun. There's nothing like getting your confidence back and going out there and getting your groove back, post divorce. In this week's episode I share my struggle with balancing motherhood, career, personal goals and dating. I've realized that I'm feeling overwhelmed and exhausted by my life all the time. Something has got to give. Although I love the fun that dating can bring, at this point in my life it's not the most important thing. Being a great mother, chasing my dreams and taking care of myself takes priority. I've decided to stop ignoring my gut and make changes that allow me to focus on what's most important to me.
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Dont Get Dickmatized(Replay and Reflect)

In this week’s episode I share my journey to and through getting dickmatized! Sex after divorce can be both scary and exciting. On my journey I fell hard and fast into the dicksand. After going so many years without having sex, once I started again I lost my sense of self and my focus. Feeling wanted and desired after the feelings of rejection that a divorce brings can be addicting. Creating that connection with the wrong person can lead to you over looking red flags and staying in a relationship with the wrong person, for the wrong reasons. Having amazing sex is not the problem. I wish that for all of us! However, loosing yourself and your focus in the process is not okay.
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Sex After Divorce

Getting back out there after divorce is scary. I had spent years in a sexless marriage. I had learned, out of necessity, to suppress that part of myself. Eventually, I decided that I was ready to get back out there and get me some. Before I did, I took time to work on my self-worth, self-confidence, and spend time getting to know myself sexually again. All my hard work paid off because once I got back out there, I experienced the best sex of my life. I know putting yourself out there might be scary, but remember in this chapter we are not only creating the life we deserve, but the sex life we deserve as well.
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