Divorced but not dead, yet.

Sex After Divorce

Getting back out there after divorce is scary. I had spent years in a sexless marriage. I had learned, out of necessity, to suppress that part of myself. Eventually, I decided that I was ready to get back out there and get me some. Before I did, I took time to work on my self-worth, self-confidence, and spend time getting to know myself sexually again. All my hard work paid off because once I got back out there, I experienced the best sex of my life. I know putting yourself out there might be scary, but remember in this chapter we are not only creating the life we deserve, but the sex life we deserve as well.
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Becoming A Member Of The First Wives Club

I've recently become a member of 'The First Wives Club'. Being the first wife, I spent a lot of years nurturing, sacrificing, and financially supporting my ex-husband. I was investing in the potential I saw in him. In this week's episode, I share how it feels when you help your partner achieve their goals only to watch another woman enjoy the fruits of your labor.
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Fear of Failure and Rejection After Divorce (REFLECT AND REPLAY)

This week I decided to replay on of my favorite episodes. In this episode I share how facing my fears of failure and rejection, by taking chances, allowed me to accomplish things I never thought I could. During my divorce I struggled most with feeling rejected and like a failure. The person I loved no longer wanted me and I couldn’t keep my family together. Through therapy and self reflection I finally understood that it’s not one persons responsibility to keep a marriage together and just because someone doesn’t see your value, doesn’t mean you’re not valuable! Those fears not only kept me in an unhealthy marriage, they kept me from trying new things and chasing my dreams. Once I made the toughest and scariest decision to file for divorce, I became a lot less fearful. I was able to launch this podcast, date for the first time as an adult, create a business , and create the life I deserve.
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Accepting My Exes New Partner As Part Of My Sons Life

One of my biggest fears about getting divorced was that, once my ex moved on, that meant that there would be another woman in my child's life. Will she treat him well? Will she cause issues in our coparenting relationship? Would she create a wedge between my son and his father? Once I realized it was actually happening, the worry and anxiety hit me hard! After time went on, I didn't experience any of these things. I have to say I've been lucky. Even though things are going pretty well, the thought of another woman being in my child's life still feels weird. I feel that one day I will get to the point where I might want to build a rapport or relationship with her, but I'm not there yet. lol. What I've learned is, no matter how I feel about my ex's new partner, I have to always try to conduct myself in a way that creates the best end result for our son.
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Celebrating Mother’s Day Post Divorce

Facing big holidays after a divorce can be hard. On this week's episode I share my post-divorce Mother's Day experience. I also share how I plan to spend this Mother's Day. If you don't have your children on Mother's Day, always remember making time to celebrate is what's important. It doesn't have to be on a particular day.
As mentioned in the show. Last years Mother’s Day podcast.
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How I’m Handling Getting Mistaken For My Exes New Partner

When getting divorced, you know that eventually your Ex will move on. You also accept the fact that you will have to be around them with their new partner, especially if you have kids together. What I never thought of was having to experience being constantly mistaken for my Exes new partner. In this week's episode I share how I've dealt with this case of mistaken identity while trying not to lose it!
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From Husband To Wasband

I've gone through a lot of name changes with my Ex over the years. From Hubby and Babe to Ex, Liar, 'My child's father', that man I wasted years on lol. I'm now in a place where the chronic animosity is gone, and his new name is Wasband. In this week's episode I share my journey of healing through the hurt and anger my divorce caused in order to allow me to view my Wasband as my coparent and not the man that broke my heart.
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What If My Son Wants To Live With His Dad?!

I love being a boy mom! I remember being pregnant and feeling like one of the perks of having a boy was that my husband would be more hands-on as our son got older. Now that I'm divorced, that thought terrifies me. What if one day my son looks at me and says, "I want to go live with my dad"! Although I'm grateful my ex-husband is hands-on and has a great relationship with my son, it scares me that one day he might need his dad more than me. As a result, he may want to live with his dad full-time! The thought of that makes me sad and gives me anxiety. In this week's episode, I share my 'boy mom' fears of how divorce could impact my mother-son relationship in the future.
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Ex Wife Math (Reflect and Replay)

In this episode I will share my experience of negotiating spousal support during the divorce process. I realized that my inability to speak up for myself, my people pleasing ways, pride, and emotional exhaustion heavily influenced the decisions I made. I hope that you will learn from my mistakes and know that whatever support you get from your ex, financially, should not be attached to shame or fear. I want you to feel empowered to ask for what you deserve and you deserve to “ Get that Money, Honey”. Lol
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When Your Ex Moves On (Reflect and Replay)

In this week’s episode, I share what it felt like to find out my ex-husband is engaged! As you can imagine, I went through a roller coaster of emotions. The truth of the matter is, men tend to move on very quickly after divorce, so brace yourself. What I found to help me is keeping a list and checking it twice. Lol. My therapist recommended that I make a list of all the things that brought me hurt and pain throughout our marriage. Whenever I get triggered by my exes actions that send me down a rabbit hole of self doubt I pull out that list. Doing so keeps me rooted in the reality of what the relationship was and why I ultimately made the right decision.
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